When our son was a toddler, we lived in an apartment where in the yard was a stone wall with steps and a grassy patch. I placed containers filled with flowers and herbs along the stone wall and steps. Day-lilies happily overtook the grassy patch. I’ll never forget the first time I saw a hummingbird feeding from a cleome flower. The biggest effect this garden had on me was that I found zen. When I would pull the weeds from around the containers that sat on the wall, my mind quieted down, my heart opened, my soul relaxed, and I felt calm.
When we finally bought our first house we transformed the side yard lawn by building four raised garden beds from scratch and placing them down the center. We filled them with free compost from the city recycling center and each box held its own square foot companion planting design, inspired by Braiding Sweetgrass. We were abundantly blessed with zucchini, tomatoes, cucumbers, cilantro, parsley, kale, zinnia, broccoli, and in mid-Autumn, purple sweet potatoes, just to name a few.
That growing season was the most profound. We were finally able to literally put down roots. We finally had a garden we could call our own. I was able to fully immerse myself in our garden. My mind was quiet for longer, my heart stayed open longer, my soul relaxed longer, and I was more calm more often. I had manifested my very own sanctuary.